At the present time, do you find that it’s impossible for you to believe anything your husband tells you? Are you not able to tell the truth from his lies anymore?

If your husband has betrayed your trust by cheating on you, you have every reason to be doubtful and mistrustful. After being hurt you instincts fully tried to analyze your relationship knowing that your husband is capable of betraying you. Your instincts are trying to protect you from further pain. It’s like the saying, “fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me”. Many wives blame themselves for trusting their husbands and then getting cheated.

Anyone can be fooled by a good liar. Even policemen who deal with liars constantly are fooled every now and then. It’s not easy to become good at spotting a lie because by nature we want to trust those around us. Therefore it’s not hard to be fooled the first time, but after that it’s hard to rebuild your trust in the person who deceived you.

When you discover that your marriage has been threatened by infidelity, it’s hard to know what you can put your faith in again. This is natural for anyone. The realization that your husband has lied and betrayed you in such a painful manner as infidelity will make you suspicious and doubtful as you mentally process your new reality. This doesn’t mean that you won’t be able to ever trust him again. But now you know that he has cheated on you, you will tend to be cautious until he proves he is worthy of your trust.

After the devastating discovery of an affair, you may want to trust him but it’s a process that will take time and willingness on his part to earn that trust. He betrayed you and that has seriously damaged your faith in him. This is a serious blow to your marriage and will take a lot of effort from you both if you want to save your marriage.

To rebuild a devastated relationship that has been so badly damaged by lies, you need to create a new foundation of trust. Eventually you will have to overcome your mistrust that he may be lying to you. One of the major problems for victims of an affair is that they feel they need more from a cheating husband than just claims of remorse to overcome their mistrust. A victim of infidelity wants to know that the cheater is sincerely working to change his character and is truly committed to rebuild their marriage.

Here are some actions you can take that should gradually help you rebuild your trust.

Step 1: Define actions which trigger mistrust
Determine which actions in the recent past triggered feelings of mistrust in you. For example, is he coming home late and not bothering to call to inform you? Does this lead you to doubt him further and worry what he may really be up to? Is he often out of town on business and doesn’t answer the phone when you try to call him?

Step 2: Increase transparency
Agree to stay in contact more frequently and be more open about his activities and any unexpected changes in plans. For example, plan to call a couple of times a day to discuss how your day is going and any changes in your schedule.

Step 3: Remove triggers for mistrust
Work to gradually eliminate the actions which trigger any mistrust. This may include calls during the work day, notice of any unexpected changes in schedule and being easy to contact if traveling.

Rebuilding your trust is going to take some time and hard work but the major key is really whether you are both still mutually committed to saving your marriage. These three steps may make it a little easier but success or failure is really up to you and your husband.

If you find the two of you are at an impasse, don’t be afraid to get help from a good counselor or a guide written by an expert counselor. Advice from an impartial expert at saving marriages may mean the difference between a positive agreement or divorce.

Best wishes,

Charles Moore

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Maintaining a good relationship takes a lot of work and since it’s difficult to have a relationship alone that means it takes the two of you to work together. A relationship means having an association, a connection and a rapport. If you have an association with your spouse and to make it desirable you must make a good connection and develop a rapport.

Most relationships start off strong, filled with love and devotion. Sometimes slowly and other times quickly, the love, passion and devotion dwindle and you’re left puzzled and dazed. You rationalize that you did nothing wrong and fail to take any of the responsibility. On the other hand, you may blame yourself completely and view the situation as hopeless. You feel there are too many problems to solve, too much hurt to heal, so you just give up.

At this point where you both seem to be growing apart is where you both may feel alone and vulnerable to opportunities of infidelity. The situation could even lead one of you into an ongoing affair.

This kind of situation can make you feel your relationship is hopeless and that your marriage has failed. However, it’s never too late to save a relationship if both spouses are willing to work together to save it. You’ll both want to work together to rebuild your relationship if your love is real. False love will crumble at the first sign of trouble. True love is willing to struggle through any problem for the loved one. Which best describes your relationship?

If you decide that your love is real and your marriage is worth saving, determine what you expect from each other, where the relationship has been and where it’s heading. Has your situation so far been meaningful with plans for a permanent future or do you live from day to day and pretend you are still dating?

You have to recognize your existing problems and get them in the open. Usually, you both are to blame for not fulfilling each other’s needs. You might discover you never knew what those needs were because you failed to communicate. Sharing is bonding. In order to share you must communicate and learn about each other’s feelings and needs. Both of you may be hurting and the other is not aware of it.

Neither one of you may be to blame. This is why mutual communication and sharing are so important in a relationship. As you disclose your feelings be rational, reasonable and calm. No one wins an argument or discussion by getting angry. Temper tantrums now will do you both much more harm.

At this point you are dealing with very sensitive feelings and both of you will have your emotions on edge. You need to be sensitive to each other’s feelings to make progress toward healing your relationship. In many cases couples need an experienced counselor to get through the rough spots and find agreeable solutions. If you can’t agree to visit a counselor, at least find a good guide written by an expert to give you a blueprint on how to resolve your worst problems.

You are two different people with your own views and perspectives. Likely there is no right or wrong here, just differences. Being different doesn’t mean you’re incompatible. Your differences could be what brought you together in the first place.

Talk about what’s right in your marriage in addition to what’s wrong. Don’t harbor resentment or guilt over emotional baggage of the past. If your spouse has done something you think you can’t forgive, just be aware someone else will take right up where you let the good thing go.

Try to forgive and forget. Go slowly and agree to give it time. Some time alone to yourself may be in order. Your relationship can be saved unless you give up on it. It’s not going to be easy but hopefully your marriage is worth the effort.

Best wishes,

Charles Moore

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I read an article recently that said many marriage counselors refer to this post holiday time of year as divorce season. It seems many in troubled marriages will wait until Christmas celebrations are over to make a decision to divorce final. I also imagine being forced to be around all the relatives for Christmas may be the last straw for decision to divorce in some cases. ( I couldn’t be the only one that felt that way.)

If you are in a really bad situation that has no hope for improvement, then divorce may be the best option you have. In that case I wish you well and hope you find a happy life when you get the divorce behind you.

On the other hand if you hope there is a way to save your marriage even after an affair, I want you to know that it can be done. It will not be easy but if you take the necessary steps and work together it is possible. You may be surprised at how serious some situations have been that were resolved with mutual effort to rebuild the marriage.

I just recently learned of Maurita Corcoran who had been married for 13 years when she received a call from her husband stating that he had committed himself for counseling for sex addiction. She has written a nationally acclaimed book titled ” A House Interrupted” about their experience to save her marriage. She is still very active in helping other women in troubled marriages and has just celebrated her 28th wedding anniversary. You may find her book very helpful and inspirational if you are in a similar situation or just having problems in your marriage.

Although this book gives you information on what she went through and how she was able to recover, it probably will not be all the help you will need to survive an affair and save your marriage.

For there to be a true bond rebuilt between you and your husband, you need to resolve the causes of your problems so they don’t repeat in the future. You will both have to cooperate in this process and should either have the guidance of an expert counselor or a good guide drawn up by an expert counselor. If you just make up without addressing the causes of the problems that have so badly damaged your relationship, you will most likely just be postponing the end of your marriage.

It will take patience and tolerance from both you and your husband to preserve your relationship. At points of disagreement you may find it necessary to have help from an impartial counselor to reach an agreeable resolution. Even if you feel you can solve your problems between the two of you, you should at least have a comprehensive guide by someone very experienced in marriage counseling to ensure you are really making meaningful progress and not just fooling yourselves.

I am enclosing a link for a free report by Dr. Frank Gunzburg who has helped over 26,000 couples and you may find his advice very valuable.

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Whatever you decide I wish you luck. If you both want to stay married there is hope as shown by Maurita Corcoran and a great many others, but even if your marriage cannot be saved you deserve to have a happy life. It won’t be easy but it’s not too late.

Best regards,

Charles Moore

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Are you worried that your husband is having an “emotional affair” and cheating on you over the Internet or cell phone? As disgusting as Congressman Anthony Weiner’s twitter affairs were, they provide a very public example of how destructive computer flirting and emotional affairs can be to a marriage. Whether or not there is any physical affair, the emotional violation can be devastating to a spouse.

So many of us now use the Internet extensively at work and are in contact with new people constantly doing the duties of our jobs. We all seem to have laptops, smart phones or iPads that allow us access to the Internet whenever and where ever we are. If we meet someone on the web, it certainly isn’t hard to keep in touch by voice, video, tweets and texts. I recently saw a commercial for one of the dating websites that claimed at least 20% of the couples dating today met each other on the Internet.

Ease of access to the Internet makes it easier to meet someone you may feel comfortable getting friendly with, but does not make it right if you become too intimate and are married to someone else. To share your personal thoughts with someone other than your spouse, builds an emotional connection. At the least diverting attention to someone else when you could be focusing that time on your spouse.

Marriage is based upon an emotional connection and when a husband builds such a connection outside of his marriage, he is cheating on his marriage relationship whether it is sexual or not. If it is not a sexual relationship yet, it certainly has the danger of becoming one. Once that type of connection has been established, it does not take too much effort for it to cross the line to become a physical relationship.

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When the emotional affair is discovered, many husbands will argue that they weren’t having sex so he wasn’t really cheating. In his mind he may or may not truly believe this but if he wasn’t open with you about this connection, he knows he was doing something wrong.

Even if this emotional affair was not sexual, it is a warning signal that you and your husband have had a fracture in your bond of intimacy with each other. If this was not the case, he would not have been sharing his personal feelings with another person. This is a sign that you need to do some repair work to resolve your marriage bond before something worse happens that can’t be resolved.

Once your husband does admit he is guilty of having an emotional affair and regrets any pain it has caused you, the two of you will be able to concentrate on saving your marriage and rebuilding your own bond of intimacy. Expert courses are available to help you repair your bonds if you find you need some help.

There is never a legitimate reason for one spouse to cheat on the other but generally when one does, it can be traced back to some sense of dissatisfaction or unhappiness with the marriage. If you can both agree on what the source for that problem is and agree to solve it together you will be able to make meaningful progress.

This emotional affair started with his perceived need to share his feelings with someone. This means he didn’t feel he could communicate those feelings to you. Open communication is an vital part for any happy marriage. You both need to feel that you can comfortably discuss your feelings with each other to really be happy and content in your marriage. This may take some patience but you don’t want him going to someone else do you?

It is never acceptable for a husband to cheat whether it is just emotional or sexual. To save your marriage and not worry about future problems, be patient, supportive and open with each other. This won’t be easy but you should both enjoy a much more pleasant relationship by working together more closely.

Best regards,

Charles Moore

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After discovering that your husband has had an affair, you wonder if your marriage is worth saving. You feel shocked and furious as well as confused and hurt. You wonder if you do decide to try and reconcile, can you manage to save your marriage without losing your self respect?

When you are the victim of an affair, it’s easy to lose your sense of self-respect and self-confidence. Getting past your negative feelings and thoughts will not only rebuild your self-respect and self-confidence, it will also give you strength and assurance you need to work toward surviving the affair and rebuilding your marriage.

You need to realize that you were not responsible for the affair. You were not responsible for your husband’s bad behavior. However, you are responsible for what you will do with your own life in the future.

No matter how hurt and furious you are with your husband for cheating, when you have children and have established a home together, it’s not easy to just get a divorce. You have to consider your children, relatives who may depend on you and ties you have established in your community. All of these could be jeopardized by a divorce.

Before you make any major decisions about your future, be sure to give yourself some time to heal and calm down from the initial emotional shock of discovering the affair. It’s only natural to be angry and hurt so take the time to heal enough to be able to deal with the situation without your emotions overruling your logic. This time also allows you to get control of your negative thoughts and images of the affair that may confuse your thinking.

One of the most crucial steps for surviving an affair and maintaining your self-respect is to make sure that the affair is permanently over. If your husband is honest and sincere about changing his bad behavior, it is possible to rebuild your marriage even stronger than it was before the affair. With you both being open and supportive of each other, you may find you’re even happier.

However if it turns out that your husband is a hopeless woman chaser and will not or cannot change, his respect for you is pretty much gone. You may come to some arrangement to stay married, if for some reason you feel that you have to, but it won’t be a very pleasant situation.

Experts who successfully counsel couples on saving their marriage, tell us that it is very important for couples to respect each other enough to build a sense of transparency in the marriage. You need to work to openly communicate your thoughts and feelings with each other to rebuild your sense of trust.

Being open and accountable with each other about plans for each day as well as notifying your spouse about any unexpected changes builds a foundation of transparency and trust. I’m not trying to claim this will be easy because it will probably be an aggravating and disagreeable exercise at times. It’s not supposed to be fun but to help you be more open and respectful of each other.

No matter what problems you have had in your marriage, there is no justifiable excuse for your husband to cheat on you. Even if you both are in agreement that you want to save your marriage, it will take a lot of hard work to resolve the damage and you will probably have to work through quite a few disagreements.

On the positive side, this is such a frequent situation that there is a great deal of easily accessible expert advice to guide you through the ordeal of surviving an affair to preserve your marriage. If you are both genuinely serious about reconciling and considerate to each other through this process, you can not only save your marriage but still respect yourself and your spouse when you succeed.

Best regards,

Charles Moore

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Every marriage has its share of problems but infidelity is the most painful test your marriage may face. After you have been married for a few years, any marriage faces a number of challenges that test your relationship. Finances are always a struggle and work, children and relatives constantly seem to pull you in different directions. However, the most bitter test any relationship can deal with is an affair.

When you discover your husband has had an affair, it seems your world has been turned upside down. You are hurt and angry but you can’t get the painful thoughts of the affair out of your mind. You feel that you can’t make intelligent decisions until you can eliminate the negative thoughts of the affair and anger from your mind.

Right now you are trying to decide what to do with your marriage. You’re not sure if the marriage will survive the affair or if you will ever be able to forgive him. What drove him to treat you this way?

Nothing can damage your bond of trust is totally and quickly as an affair. In many cases it instantly and permanently kills the relationship as soon as it is discovered. However, there are also many who for various reasons want to save their marriage if there is any real hope to reconcile.

If you have just discovered that you are the victim of infidelity, you suffer an overwhelming sense of pain, shock and betrayal. There is no quick way to ease your suffering but it is possible to rebuild your marriage only if you both agree it is worth saving. No one can blame you for venting your anger when you learned of the affair but if you really hope to reconcile, you will need to control your anger to be able to resolve this crisis.

Saving your marriage can be successfully accomplished but you both have to be honestly committed to do the work needed to rebuild it and cooperate with each other. You cannot just go back to the way things were. The way things were resulted in the affair. The two of you now need to agree on a plan to improve your marriage that meets both your needs.

There is a very successful system developed by a PhD with 30 years experience in dealing with matters of infidelity that can help you. The key to saving the marriage is the commitment you both have to do so but this system can be a great guide for focusing your efforts to save your marriage. A free introductory report to help you is available. For more information about this report simply click on the link below.

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The only way to revive your marriage is for you to decide whether you both are really committed enough to save it. Once you resolve that you value your marriage enough to make the necessary changes, here are some of the basic steps you will need to take to be successful.

1. You must be certain that the affair is permanently terminated before you can begin any progress toward reconciliation.

2. You must both sincerely feel that your marriage is truly worth saving. This is a hard decision and if you both are not truly committed to staying together, there is not anything  just one of you can do that will make a permanent difference.

3. Once you both agree your marriage is worth saving, you need to agree on the root problems that led to the affair. Don’t argue about problems caused by the affair, concentrate on what led to the desire for the affair in the first place and solve those problems. If you can identify the underlying  problems that led to the affair and agree to improve, you have hope to save your marriage.

4. When you have identified specific root problems, you must agree on how to solve each one to prevent future bad behavior.

5. You must take action on the agreed solutions and remain committed to solving your problem areas. No matter how much you discuss proposed solutions, they will not be successful unless you take action and stay committed to the solutions.

6. When you decide the solutions are going to be an ongoing process and resolve to stay committed to improve, your marriage should start to improve as well.

This is going to be hard work and there will surely be disagreements and arguments during the process. You are both going to have to be reasonable and forgiving to successfully make all the needed changes to save and strengthen your marriage.

This process can be exasperating at times. The system I referred to earlier can make it easier for you to work through these changes. For additional information and a free report simply click the link below.

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I hope this information will be as helpful to you as it has many others and wish you the best of luck with saving your marriage.

Best regards,

Charles Moore

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Can you survive the affair and save your marriage?

You have just discovered that the worst thing that you could imagine has happened to your marriage.

You’ve spent years together building a family and now you feel betrayed, angry, hurt and afraid. You’re furious about the affair but you’re not sure you can walk away from your marriage if there is a chance it can be saved. Right now you’re just not sure which path to follow.

There is no simple answer and it may not be possible to fully restore the bond you once shared. However, Dr. Frank Gunzburg is a psychologist who has specialized in helping couples deal with infidelity issues for over 30 years and has developed a very successful  method to help deal with an affair. To help you and prove his expertise, he offers this free report to help you start dealing with the affair.

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I’m sure that this is a painful time for you and hope you will find this report as helpful as many others have. Surviving an affair is not easy and will require commitment from you both, but it can be done.

I wish you the best of luck with getting through this.

Best wishes,

Charles Moore

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